Posting #143 – We Care

By:  RSOL of Virginia
Date:  09/30/09

Virginia Supporters,

This evening I was in the process of replying to a "snail mail" letter that the sender mentions suicide and I received an e-mail earlier today about someone's loved one being extremely depressed and they were concerned about leaving that person home alone.

So, we have added Suicide Hotlines in Virginia to the Resource section of our web-site.

If anyone is severely depressed or is having harmful thoughts, please reach out for help we beg you.

We care very much about each and every one of you and your family members ask for help if you need it.

RSOL of Virginia Organizer

1st Response to Posting #143
From:  Justin
Date: 10/01/09

Hey Everyone,

My name is Justin and I thank RSOL of Virginia for all they do for everyone. Thank                    you.

I also ask you guys if you feel DEPRESSED or are Feeling like your life is over because of all this, please seek help. 

Don't want to make this a LONG STORY ABOUT ME, but I think it will help you guys see that there is hope out there.

I was very much DEPRESSED from all this, to the point that I was having PANIC ATTACKS, ANXIETY DISORDER and DEPRESSION, Flash backs of being in JAIL and getting arrested. IT WAS BAD. For years I was in a Spiral of DARKNESS.

What helped me was going to see a SOCIAL WORKER; I searched around till I found the one that I connected with. I have been seeing her and still do for almost 2 years now. 

I have kids too and it's hard not being able to go to their school events or allowed to even be there. How can you not be depressed?

My opinion is just LEARN from what you did, DON'T do it again, and try to HOLD                    YOUR HEAD UP, no matter what people say. The main thing for me was not wondering what people said, but what I THOUGH OF MYSELF..... I put my self down and told myself that I was a bad person for doing this. It took many, many months to forgive myself for my actions.

Start by seeing a SOCIAL WORKER rather than a THERAPIST, social workers, to me personally, are better. Don't get stuck with just seen one, change a few times and see who is better, or what works best for you.

Just know things happen for a reason. 

Honestly, if this did not happen to me I would have been divorced by now, and I’d still been the angry, person I was then. 

Before my arrest, I was in a hardship with my wife, we did not get along, we argued all                  the time, I did not want to go and seek counseling for our marriage, I thought "I AM ]FINE, I DO NOT NEED THAT CRAP" I was ANGRY all the time, I never talked about my problems or feelings with anyone, specially her.

AFTER ALL THIS, I am now happier, my wife and I get along so much better now, it                  has changed me for the better. I am just a better person all around. CARE MORE Understand more....

So take something BAD and turn it to something GOOD.

Good luck to all of you, and if you need any advice I am here to help out.

GOB BLESS
Justin

 

2nd Response to Posting #143
From: Ellen (a mother)
Date: 10/01/09

RSOL of Virginia,

We have experienced these times, too. I say "we" because when your S.O. loved one hurts everyone who loves them feels the pain.

I too would be glad to talk to anyone, any time day or night. This is a very serious and                   real situation that is the natural consequence of the situation.

Hope is the answer and we have to be there for each other to give strength when that person has lost his/her own strength to sustain themselves.

Ellen